ALWAYS WATCH FOR THE WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER
Is a wedding photographer a gossip that nobody cares about? I’ve been thinking about that for several reasons: he’s asked, he’s paid, to go and be with everyone at a wedding to be aware of everything that’s going on there and, with the help of his gear, take out of there what he thinks will be a story that will accompany that groom and that bride, who will no longer be, so that they will come to remember it better and show it to others who didn’t live it and want to know what it was like to be there. For that, I have to be a little shameless and always entering, somehow, into the intimacy of those who, with all the pomp for the circumstance, vainly defy my lenses, which are not restrained nor ask, please.
That’s why when I walk around there, as a wedding photographer as the only reason to be there, and I’m always looking for, on the one hand, those things that nobody else notices and, on the other hand, those that appear out of nowhere and are more ephemeral than the seconds of the time clock and if the wedding photographer doesn’t have at least a little bit of gossip, will only notice them when they have already gone and no longer serve any purpose in the reason that took him, or brought him, there and will run the risk of arriving at the end of the day and take with him some empty cameras without the possibility of being delivered, in the quiet of the office and inside his computer, the stories that, one by one, will make the sequence of a larger story, as we like to be told.
That’s why. Although it is not a characteristic that makes the common people proud, there are those who like it, and to whom the common people don’t give much trust and respect, but the wedding photographer will have no other remedy but to be the gossip that walks among the bride and groom, the guests, the officiants of the ceremonies, the ones who are there to celebrate and party and the things others did so that everything was beautiful. Now there is one thing that, I think, to ease my conscience, makes the wedding photographer a good gossip: he doesn’t look for the bad things, for those things that may negatively affect someone or a group, for the pleasure of those who like things to go wrong for others. On the contrary, he, and his lens, only finds those things that appear when people are happy for others when they get together for love when they are there because that’s where they want to be and they don’t care at all if a wedding photographer is there. So far it’s always been like this and I see no reason to change.